WHAT DO I UNDERSTAND ABOUT SELF ESTEEM???

Hurmm..perkara pertama yg terlintas di kepala when talk about self esteem is..... 

  SELF CONFIDENCE + SPIRIT = SUCCESSFUL

but this is only what I understand and think about it..

But the true meaning is (according to Pak Cik GoOgLe) : 

• Self-esteem is how we value ourselves, how we perceive our value to the world
  and how valuable we think we are to others. 
• Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work – nearly every part of our lives. 
• Positive self-esteem gives us the strength and flexibility to take charge of our lives and grow from our mistakes without the fear of rejection.
• Following are some outward signs of positive self-esteem:

• Confidence
• Self-direction
• Non-blaming behavior
• An awareness of personal strengths
• An ability to make mistakes and learn from them
• An ability to accept mistakes from others
• Optimism
• An ability to solve problems
• An independent and cooperative attitude
• Feeling comfortable with a wide range of emotions
• An ability to trust others
• A good sense of personal limitations
• Good self-care
• The ability to say no

 
What is low self-esteem? 

• Low self-esteem is a worse condition that keeps individuals from realizing
  their full potential. 
• A person with low self-esteem feels unworthy, incapable, and incompetent. 
• In fact, because the person with low self-esteem feels so poorly about him or herself, these feelings may actually cause the person’s continued low self-esteem.
• Here are some signs of low self-esteem:

• Negative view of life
• Perfectionist attitude
• Mistrusting others – even those who show signs of affection
• Blaming behavior
• Fear of taking risks
• Feelings of being unloved and unlovable
• Dependence – letting others make decisions
• Fear of being ridiculed

How can you raise low self-esteem?

• Feelings of low self-esteem often build up over a lifetime, and letting go of ingrained feelings and behaviors is not an easy task. It may take time, hard work, and it may require professional counseling.
• But there are some simple, positive thinking techniques that can be used to help improve self-esteem. These are called affirmations.
• Using affirmations to stop negative self-talk is a simple, positive way to help increase self-esteem.
• Affirmations are encouraging messages we can give ourselves every day until they become part of our feelings and beliefs. Affirmations work best when a person is relaxed.
• But since people are often upset when they are giving themselves negative self-messages, they may need to counter negative messages with positive ones.
  
  
  For example, replace the message “I made a stupid mistake, and I am no good at this job,” with “Yes, I made a mistake but I have learned from it, and now I can do a better job.” 

• Begin each day by looking in the mirror and giving yourself a positive message. 
• The following affirmations can help you to work toward a positive self-image:

• I respect myself and others
• I am lovable and likable
• I am confident, and it shows
• I care about myself
• I am creating loving, healthy relationships
• I am a good friend to myself and others
• I accept myself just as I am
• I look great
• Life is good, and I like being a part of it

 

AND PLEASE

REMEMBER THAT YOU MUST......

p/s: for those who have low self-esteem please BEAR in your mind and PRACTICE all of these tips in your daily life

 & 

insyAllah, u guys can have a high self-esteem SOON!!!